Tuesday, August 16, 2005

Home Study Interviews - Completed!!

Well after two days and roughly 8 hours of questioning our home study interviews have been completed. Day one consisted of Karen and I together talking with our agent, Lauren, about our personal relationship. Lauren really left no stone unturned and appeared to really be trying to get to know us as people. I originally thought that the process would be intrusive and uncomfortable, but much to Lauren's credit it felt more like a conversation.
We talked about how we arrived at adoption, our expectations for our daughter and how we planned to achieve these expectations. She asked us about our relationship and how we went about resolving conflicts. We discussed our hobbies, how we spend time together and how we've grown as a couple. Additionally there was discussion about the unique dynamics of an interracial family. I must admit these dialogs really opened my eyes and left me with numerous questions.
At the end of day one Lauren suggested that we continue with the remainder of the home study on the following day. Since our initial home study agency fell expediting the process was a welcomed idea. So we agreed to meet at the same time on the following day for our one-on-one interviews.
Day two's feel was a bit different, like separating the accused to verify their stories. My wife decided to go first, so I went off to waste some time on the computer. The questions asked on day two were actually more personal then the previous set of questions. These questions had more to do with our upbringing, family relationships, marital dynamics and personal philosophies on life, religion and child rearing. Individually each of us spent two hours answering questions, although the time seemed to go by much faster.
We have been told to expect a draft copy of our home study in a week or so. Were both looking forward to seeing how outside eyes view our relationship. Lauren said she would have no problem writing a favorable report. I'm just wondering if all our little quarks will make there way into that report.

1 Comments:

At 1:23 AM, Blogger Trixie said...

Can you tell us a bit more about this part of the process ? I am so nervous and my husband is incredibly shy. He is not good at thinking up answers on the spot. He likes to mull over the question and I am a bit worried how this will translate in an interview. Yikes.

 

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